Dealing with the world, and its inhabitents!
Originally published in 2011, Term 2
“Your task is to make him like you!” was my mother’s mantra on the few occasions a child of hers was silly enough to complain about their treatment by a teacher, coach, supervisor, or actually any normal adult.
If you were to choose a single mantra to bring your child up by, I can think of a few better. Let me expand.
My mother’s retort embodies the belief that children have the power to affect their own destinies. This is empowering.
My mother’s response makes it clear that being charming, kind, helpful, considerate, and thoughtful—responding appropriately to the person and situation—is the most effective method of moving the outcome of this and future transactions toward the one you, the child, desire.
Many of us, as caring parents, are too inclined to speak up for our children and buy-in on their behalf. But are we actually doing the right thing by them by doing this?
Mum, once again your example sets a wonderful standard in child-raising. I will attempt to follow.
Yours,
Timothy Berryman (Principal)